Why should/shouldn't we lie?

I loved and lived in fairy tales, I have always imagined myself either RobinHood or Athos (the Musketeers) and always had my quests outlined and hoped to find like minds as mine! Unfortunately i have been riding on my own but the journey isn't less adventurous.

Lies! some are sweet and some are dark! I love my sweet lies, they keep me going so long as i am the one dreaming my vision up. I pick the puzzles of the picture i see. We are all used to stories, it is our fab past time to listen to gossip of how someone else had lived their life. We use them subconsciously to place landmarks for ours!

The lives of our leaders are far from the truth to what we see or told! What it took for Oprah to have a mind that She has would be hard to absorb in one day so some truths need to be coated and left for later.

We are afraid of the truth cos we really are very self critical. We will shut down the truth cos "We cant handle it" as Jack Nicholson had said! Now how many of them quotes we know today were really told by those who they said quoted them? Well the idea is that these people are respected so why not just add a bit more grease to their elbows, right? It dosnt really take away anything, right? Or they call anonymous those quotes whose name they wish not to compromise. PR is such a devil that i refrain from using anyone to do my publications. I'd rather die from my own mouth and shamed for my souls grammatical blunders than deceive anyone to be what i am not. I know that i am not here to impress, just a gal doing her thing and happy you read what i have seen or experienced. I read yours too :) and same it is with my brother. He is just as honest to boot as i am, maybe even worse, at least he isn't pretending. "There is no grace in spending money you steel by lying to the public" thats how our parents brought us up. They did bring us up honest, now they are like "cant these kids shut up sometimes?" Sorry habit daddy.

Milli Vanilli sang to us. Yeah it was disappointing to find out that the Music industry lied to us cos we probably wouldn't have accepted the face to the original voices. We are so full of shit that we probably deserved to be lied to.
Knowing nothing of our strengths we are actually persuaded off our natural strengths by those responsible for our internal and external well being in exchange for the illusion of community. We hate people who are proud of themselves and stand against principles widely adopted as a norm even when it is obvious it is leading us to doom because we recognise that we could be them but don't know how or were not told that they were not afraid to shift; just a bit away from the old to the new! We cling to those who we have been knowingly or unknowingly manipulated to believe think like us and then after a while realise "oh dear this isn't who I like" but we have made commitments such as friendship or relationship or a vow to stick to a religion that is clearly eroding our spirit and we have those guardians of faith who actually physically harm you if you wish to leave.

We have been conditioned to lie to ourselves. We continue to live in that environment not because we like it but because we don't want to be extricated. Left alone having to survive seems to me the struggle of many people. Parents are the staring point of society that teaches their kids their own truth, conveniently and self serving, used in protecting themselves or keep them kids illusionary protected "doped out of their perception of reality"! Did they think the old walls will hold when the new demands its turn? Milk teethes are always replaced. Teach your kids transformation, remove the rigid walls of self serving morals that aren't theirs.  In Africa our kids are still our pension, In the developed world at least the kids have been given a breather by parents who fought for the true meaning of parenthood. Maybe this happened by mistake who knows! Ask those rebels for parents who dared not to follow the crowd!

Little red riding hood was a story invented to keep girls from the big bad wolf because there was no other way from protecting girls from men who hid in forests. Today it is just a story yet it still has the same effect "put fear!" kids are perceived reckless, in the bid to try protect them we hurt some and keep some but that feeling of fear afterwards is hard to erase, i ask that parents be-careful what they paint as a picture to their kids, It transforms into other areas creating complexities parents themselves become confused in. Such as lack of self confidence.

Kids were told the story of Hansel and Gretel to protect them from falling pray of people who lure them with ...... Sweets in other meaning for words "witches" after the story became so wide spread people actually believed witches existed and some even took up the profession as mediums and in the bid to enforce people to believe in them they did make some predictions come true. How about in example for a setup? Some old lady passes by you and says "you will be rich" or "you will be attacked in 5 days" and you snob her off rather than give her a penny for the warning and in 5 days she will send her gang to come harass you. Witchcraft isn't that much voodoo as much as it is a staged game on one and then it becomes news.

There are parents that so crave power that even within the walls of their homes treat their kid so bad, that the child wishes they were an orphan and for the child to survive he has to learn to lie to protect himself should they have had the opportunity to run. They now have to lie to the askers about their parents and the society levels them bad if they dare tell their story! "thou shall honour thy parents" after all God himself said it right?", so the kid has no hope to whom to go so they lie to survive! "A parent cant possibly hate their child" every body shouts! Havnt you heard of mothers and fathers jealous of their kids confidence or beauty? Ivan the Great was one. You will only know the truth when they let you close to them or when its to late to save a life! I work with youth and I see the damage done to this kids who were made to believe what isn't good or made to lie. Sometimes i have to lie to bring them out, it is called "therapy" to trick the mind to open up cops do this as well its called tactics of interrogation "good cop bad cop" but then there is the other side. How do you tell the truth without little lies to soften the blow?

Kids they say can be hurtful, we have created this stereotypes of beauty that when one doesn't have the shape or size as Heidi Klum or Naomi Campbell we rule ourselves and others as ugly! There are actors we have wet dreams about and if a guy that approaches you don't quite look it, we say sorry you not my type or we say a sweet lie like "i am in love with someone else". How can one be out rightly rude to say to a friend "You know, i am dyeing for Harrison Ford!" I am sure the same person out of his hurt or bad mood tells you "dream on" or "you aint Harrys type". Telling sweet lies protect you from the attitudes of others.

Would we know who is our type if we weren't given an example?  I am sitting here watching Diane Keaton a woman in her 50 kissing Keanu Reeves who is 38 in the film called "Something's Gotta Give" and I am pissed :) Why? I like him to bits but then some would go on a crusade to look for him in every man and even him himself and then be surprised he isn't what they saw on screen cos DAH!! he is acting on a script! I am also pissed that i live in a society who has created this lie about age being a factor to consider when in marriage, that it has led gals like me to believe a man older than me has some brains. A wise heart is what one should be looking for.

A Lie is a script delivered to achieve an aim but the author of it dosnt know what would be its effect. It could either cause damage or bring healing but the crusader should be wise and know when, where and how to deliver it. How many have the skill of communicating and faith in man or the person before them? One may have been mistaken and said something out of line, but that ain't a lie. A lie is a cooked up plan aimed at getting a specific result, what witchcraft really is. Maybe it's why religion and science are at log aheads. :)  who knows who is lying and who is saying the truth? Only time can tell. The deeds of men within these is what makes it stand or fall. I always believed that there are 6 billion people on earth (dont know if it is true but we have to accept it, i sure know i didnt count) and with these 6 billion come 6 billion varying truths and lies, now you know why we are in such a mess. Is there something like the truth and nothing but the truth? Life sure is a fact, that no one can dispute.

People shouldn't take every word uttered personal cos that's when it takes hold of you and starts ruling your world! A compliment is a lie if you know you didnt earn it. If you are beautiful say "Its my Creators doing", dont accept it as though you were the creator of it. If you feel beautiful then you know and can see you are beautiful through the lines of your face, you are really in charge sometimes of your moods and sometimes you are at fight with the hormones who take auto pilot. What makes your beauty ugly is when you rubbing others blind with it. The art of witchcraft, is when they attack your mind to accept an idea through gossip, slander and fabrication of facts! Everything that picks your fancy must be put to test! Depends on the liability level of course! Take your pick, dont forget to use a toothpick.

Remember the beautiful Lady in Red in "the Matrix" movie? Get distracted and when you turn around she has a gun to your head? but can we live in a world where we dont believe in anyone and anything to be real? Humans are social creatures, i refuse regardless of my downs to live a life of a rat! Principles do protect you but they also have their application.

Kids are often deaf, so a slap sometimes drives the truth home. :) Hey you! Wake up from your slumber! Have you ever as a parent one day turned around and said "I don't recognise my child anymore?" That happens to every parent because they all of a sudden realise they had spent all this time programming their child to act and talk a certain way and then it all goes to smoke! That effect  does come with a little too much effort from brain washing; We fit them with people who we think think like us and shield them away from people who we think don't think or behave like us!
You know how they say give a poor man money and you will see his true colour? or a chameleon changes its colour based on the environment it is in or decides to be? What is his true environment do you know? Survival instincts make us lie, we are all protecting our strengths to survive be it on a physiological level or on the esteem level. Would it end?

I believe everything and nothing, what ever has no substance can not be tested and therefore not true to me. I choose to believe in what would push me there. That's why people believe. They have something to gain when telling or interested in the stories. They got the truth they need to move on.  For me it isnt about ideologies its about substantiating. Even the stories in the bible are half myth half examples of other people's lives compiled. People want and crave for the story of the treasure islands because it leads them on the adventure maybe they may not be interested in the actual treasure, they may not find it but they lived in pursuit of it!

I have sobered up Captain Sparrow where is the Rum?