The struggle with the straight is that to fathom that their kid could just decide an leave the nest and do to their lives what ever it is they like is a problem. They seldom let go even when their kid is straight let alone to a different life style. The parents who are against it feel like nothing and their lives will sum to nothing because they had their own dreams for the kids and left nothing to their own. Its amazing to see what becomes of a couple after their kids have left the home even in normal heterosexual family.
Those who turn Gay often have a rift with either of their parents and many parents think that the kids are doing it to spite them back and are not serious. This happens a lot in straight marriages too but it isnt often so. There is a void in every boy to connect to his absent father and a girl to her absent mother, in many cases Parenting was bad, in some cases they are born to be. I love the truly Gay people, their principles and morals of life dont differ much from the straight and you wouldn't even know the difference. In many cases a Gay couple is likely to bring up good and able kids who are straight and accepting of others than in a straight family.
Personally i dont know if it makes sense seeking recognition from society to validate your marriage. Sometimes i even feel like that paper now becomes like the elephant in the room, every one becomes uptight when they don't know how to accept a difference.
We have so much given validity to paper, yet legal rights can easily be overturned. If you arent committed you leave trails of evidence that can be used to punish you. That legal paper wouldnt be strong if there is no true bond between the couple. Free will has always been stronger. I know now that that marriage certificate some how destroyed the spark; it made him edgy and so with his family, we wernt married for 4 years and no one interfered, as soon as that paper was signed it was like one signed ones life to the devil.
If only society said that kids belong to every family who have their own kids. Meaning everyone is a kid to every parent and sibling to every home its how i remember being brought up in Africa as well as in Russia, there would be less Gay people or those who dont like their skin tone or shape and size. Yes on an individual scale it dosnt really matter but on a social level it speaks volumes. The more segregated people the more lonely homes that breed even worse damages but hey i believe it isnt the place of society to judge or state the sexual preferences of the other. na amebo de kill tafya :)
Marriage isnt simple even if many try to convince you to take it to be. To be Gay isnt as simple. How many can show open-mindedness and not feel threatened by the next door neighbour? We have jealousy rising from just a family member getting a good job let alone have a different life style. I doubt if anything is simple on this earth, even an atom has its own world within.
We all understand the yearning for affection but how many ever give themselves to find love? So many things stand in your way: ignorance of self, him/her/them/us. Marriage is chaos. I'd rather scare you off the cliff than push you. It is an artificial institution for those who dont understand or know how to believe in themselves. It is artificial because it has so many rules and rituals, the only thing that protects your rights is the relationship "intimasy" itself.
Marriage; even this description isnt complex enough to describe life and human relations. I was talking today to a friend who said she out of the pressure wants to run away if only for an hour to give herself a breather from the chores but she knows that should she for a minute demand it another set of bias questions would start.
Should they marry? Yes they should but not without deep thoughts of what Union is, both for the straight and Gay. Bless those who curse you for it rips coals upon their heads - Let those who fear fry in their own hate.
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