"WHYNOT" shows points of views, where NO or Yes is not a satisfactory answer, we are dreaming; free-willing a 100,000 ways of seeing. We pursue WHY anywhere, there's time to spare, a thrilling chase to places for you and me!
Why does man make it all about him? Why do we bring up our daughters to think that marriage revolves around man? Why do we limit ourselves?
Man as he grows changes. The more he experiences the more he transforms his mind to accept that life dosnt just revolve around his needs but the desires of his heart!
Feeding and procreating seems to be the basics of surviving but there is a factor that many often miss! SECURITY! The root of all evils and good! Should man not feel insecure there will be a whole load of love that goes around! Lack of security leads to possessiveness. Everyday we battle to gain security! In body, mind and soul! In body to sustain life, in mind to find knowledge to sustain both body and soul: stretching to find knowledge not to be the devils workshop, that can sustain body and mind together!
Self actualisation is the ultimate security I see to feel safe! If I be just carnal I would inflict havoc because all I will seek is to eat and shelter! I have accepted death as a way to give other bodies the opportunities to grow! I transend!
A girl that is made focused in looking at man as a source of her life is bound to treat the individual she lives with as a commodity! In return the male cages himself in the box he created! Of course there is danger that when you choose to chase the wind you may be lost but to others and never to self!
We seek to keep our kids grounded, but to me that is dangerous! How can one ground a soul that wasn't made to be trapped in the body! We seldom use our minds to mediate between body and the soul! The "father" is grounded, he is the past. The Son he is today, survival. And the Holy Spirit, the stretcher of visions! How can today's survival justify the events of the past and hold tomorrow to be sure as the moment is!
Why is it that family members jump so quick to see the worst in each other, but give non relatives a relatively free pass?
They say "the thief is always from within", only those you are open to know your weaknesses, however the problem is they are often measuring their weaknesses "a reaction triggered by your strengths within them" against your "actual strengths" and projecting them as your weaknesses, by the time you start believing in them you have pretty much accepted their idea of you "branding". They dont often realise that thats what they are doing, hence no point in getting reactive. Sibling and parental rivalry "jealousy" is very real and can and often leads to a rift.
Not every blood sibling is your soul sibling, not every blood family is your soul family, a stranger could be much closer to you than who you grew up with, which is often why we seek a life partner to connect to in the way we fail to connect to family members or a continuation to what we had good or bad its left to destiny.
When people project hate, discomfort, they are often threatened, those who resist judgements by not pulling into it often win and keep the relationships through time stronger. Those who give you a reply often show you who they are.
Its said: Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh and by their deeds ye shall know them, this is how you recognise who is your type but just because you get along with dad on a basic level doesn't mean when you go deeper you will remain close. This is why "daddies girls" fall off from their dads when they grow older; there is no guy that would be good enough for his princes, same it is with mothers and sons. Family doesn't often build an objective bond, hence the reactions you find and the broken homes we see today, gone are the days when kids and people are forced to be quiet about their situations for the abuse that lingered through generations be it physical or mental are piled up cases in the police stations, evidence of abuse had now flown into the streets.
There are also instances where your family criticises you for your strengths that takes advantage of you yourself. ie being kind and sensitive in a world that seems not to like each other, they would criticise you only after you have made the mistake of getting burnt, rather than help you out first and then show you where you made the mistake. People suck at being kind because they were thought only how to be nice, ie behavioural rules to be social but never focused on character building where principles rule and protect an individual. A kind person would tell you where and how you made the mistake, he/she has character and being around such persons makes you feel safe even when they may hurt you for your own good but we often dont listen to them, which is ok too. A nice person would kiss the wind or leave you with a smile yet in your heart you still feel empty.
There is an African saying "if two friends come out of a room smiling, it means they didn't tell themselves the truth" but just because you came out frowning doesn't mean they told you the truth either, you may have had a fight. People who say the truth to each other are often having a discuss, as soon as there is a shout, there is a need to withdraw emotions, ie could be you should let the other finish with what they have to say? At the end of the day what you think of yourself matters most.
Just because you are family doesn't mean you shouldn't have manners of approaching your relative. Just because you are family doesn't give you the right of ownership of a soul regardless of how much you care, being over protective is also a sign of possessiveness, some even use the excuse of being protective to shadow their own selfish desires. Don't keep friends you lie to, you will be weary of the relationship yourself, even if they dont know you did lie. Diplomacy, what is it? say once, warn twice then mind your business.
Why are women fighting to be priests even when there was no Catherine or Mabel among the twelve
disciples of Jesus which was in the new testament the modern churches seem relay on?
Let me take you on a journey of vantage thoughts. Have men ever tried to understand the nature of a woman? Has he looked closely to who his mother, sister, aunty, wife is? They always ask what does a woman want?! That is a wrong approach because sincerely seldom do women want anything. We may nag but that is the call for attention and communication that brings order for the family. We are social creatures, we dont do well in isolation. Men seem to love it since they are busy trying to escape from commitment. They like to shy away from the world; a need for solitude. My question is this "don't women also want time to think"? As girls we are tender, softer and quite innocent when we are protected, hence in ancient days the Greeks used to keep Virgins as a sorse of opinion to develop knowledge. There isnt anything carnal in a woman naturally, its man that isnt tamed but should she go through hell becomes worse than any natures being and far more dangerous to control. She becomes as wise as a serpent or awakens once it is triggered.
There is no wonder when we call Mother nature for help when everything has broken loose. Thats why i say do not underestimate the strength of a woman. If you as a man presume she is weak and treat her like a possession, life with her will tell you better. I do not think a woman who is single and hasnt experienced mother hood and reared kids should take the post because a woman awakens to be like a mother when she has experiences with people. Thats why men shouldn't scorn a gal when she gets pregnant because she awakens.
"Genesis 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you." Why the pain? Its because until she has no experience physically or mentally or in heart you wouldn't know who the woman truly is. To me a prostitute is better than a nun, who parades her virginity without realising she is ignorant. Don't we all love Madea? She may be mad but everyone gets their lot :)
Women project from their inner self, men are reactive from the world, he is a physical being, thats why he can be lured but not often by the women but by other men who use women as their tool. Who brought Samson down? it isnt the woman althoe she was used as a tool. The bible stories are not complete because the so called wise men wanted you to find it. It is easy to deceive a woman because she is trusting and if she finds out woe unto you.
Abusive men usually use force to keep the woman isolated so she does not speak of what his deeds are. Its harder for men to find spirituality because man goes by what he sees and only when hit by the wall he starts asking his inner self why he is in the predicament he is in but should a gal be worshiped just like man she develops weak zones too. If you look at those leaders who kept women as their body guards they are usually harder to deceive. When a woman feels safe, her loyalty is just like that of a pitbull. Women when assassins or put to serve never leave any stone unturned and sometimes the power can get to us, we become obsessive where men show possessiveness. Is there realy a solution on who is better? Yes there are times when women should come in but to serve their term and leave so that there is balance. A lot of cardinals or pastors consult women on matters so why deceive anyone about becoming a role model? But this you must look at; Men need an Image to look up to, women really dont care they know how to serve and the day today life keeps us grounded. If you look at most women they are meeker than men. Thats why you see when men hurt their women they usually do not grow.
I am not a fan of making life a political, religious engagement even though it is, which is why i leave some issues out of politics such as women rights. If a woman knows her powers the man will open the door for her. Bill was the president, Now Hilary is the spine of her nation. Not every woman wants that head position but if given will serve her nation and not because she isnt allowed. I am terrible on wimpy women who try to talk about their rights without using some level of brain work. I dont think Hilary should go for super status, she knows what she has done to make her country strong; through the man that she had supported.
My last opinion on it should be no, there is an extent a woman should use her powers not to rub her country of balance. Men will find it hard to look up to a woman, man was built with ego; ever wondered why Mary Magdalene didn't continue the church of Christ after his crucifixion? As a specie we are not scientifically built for that kind of leadership. Look at the Matriarchal societies like Ghana, they may be stable but there is a spark that is missing. Nigerians are mad but in that madness we have peace. Our men do know what civil liberties are and the smart ones dont mess with their mother, wife and daughter. Well maybe she should be the Queen like the British but parliament No No. The head is still the Man, i dont mind throwing darts at him than stab my own fellow women :) we are already overloaded as it is. I love my women more even if i am hard on them.
There should be women in the ranks to keep the balance of testosterone levels down. Even in the business world we require women to be in the midst because most business solutions revolve around providing solutions in the home and society. Man may be the one who engineered the washing machine but it took the woman to nag about it to him; she may have left his dirty socks for him to realise she aint his maid :)
Why shouldn't everyone - including gay, lesbian and transgender folks - be able to celebrate their entire life together as a legally married couple?
The struggle with the straight is that to fathom that their kid could just decide an leave the nest and do to their lives what ever it is they like is a problem. They seldom let go even when their kid is straight let alone to a different life style. The parents who are against it feel like nothing and their lives will sum to nothing because they had their own dreams for the kids and left nothing to their own. Its amazing to see what becomes of a couple after their kids have left the home even in normal heterosexual family.
Those who turn Gay often have a rift with either of their parents and many parents think that the kids are doing it to spite them back and are not serious. This happens a lot in straight marriages too but it isnt often so. There is a void in every boy to connect to his absent father and a girl to her absent mother, in many cases Parenting was bad, in some cases they are born to be. I love the truly Gay people, their principles and morals of life dont differ much from the straight and you wouldn't even know the difference. In many cases a Gay couple is likely to bring up good and able kids who are straight and accepting of others than in a straight family.
Personally i dont know if it makes sense seeking recognition from society to validate your marriage. Sometimes i even feel like that paper now becomes like the elephant in the room, every one becomes uptight when they don't know how to accept a difference.
We have so much given validity to paper, yet legal rights can easily be overturned. If you arent committed you leave trails of evidence that can be used to punish you. That legal paper wouldnt be strong if there is no true bond between the couple. Free will has always been stronger. I know now that that marriage certificate some how destroyed the spark; it made him edgy and so with his family, we wernt married for 4 years and no one interfered, as soon as that paper was signed it was like one signed ones life to the devil.
If only society said that kids belong to every family who have their own kids. Meaning everyone is a kid to every parent and sibling to every home its how i remember being brought up in Africa as well as in Russia, there would be less Gay people or those who dont like their skin tone or shape and size. Yes on an individual scale it dosnt really matter but on a social level it speaks volumes. The more segregated people the more lonely homes that breed even worse damages but hey i believe it isnt the place of society to judge or state the sexual preferences of the other. na amebo de kill tafya :)
Marriage isnt simple even if many try to convince you to take it to be. To be Gay isnt as simple. How many can show open-mindedness and not feel threatened by the next door neighbour? We have jealousy rising from just a family member getting a good job let alone have a different life style. I doubt if anything is simple on this earth, even an atom has its own world within.
We all understand the yearning for affection but how many ever give themselves to find love? So many things stand in your way: ignorance of self, him/her/them/us. Marriage is chaos. I'd rather scare you off the cliff than push you. It is an artificial institution for those who dont understand or know how to believe in themselves. It is artificial because it has so many rules and rituals, the only thing that protects your rights is the relationship "intimasy" itself.
Marriage; even this description isnt complex enough to describe life and human relations. I was talking today to a friend who said she out of the pressure wants to run away if only for an hour to give herself a breather from the chores but she knows that should she for a minute demand it another set of bias questions would start.
Should they marry? Yes they should but not without deep thoughts of what Union is, both for the straight and Gay. Bless those who curse you for it rips coals upon their heads - Let those who fear fry in their own hate.
I do my level best to embrace everyone, but there is a point where i question myself, my actions and others. Being nice is different from being kind. Nice people never sound controversial, they are well brought up to kiss the wind of your cheeks, while with a hug show a facial expression to others. Kind people hug you and look into your eyes and you can see the delight in their face even if they dont know you. Even when they are angry at you you can still feel the glow of their hearts. I am not a nice person even if it would save my life. I have what to live for and die for, people can't determine my success. I help them build theirs and mine at the same time grows.
I realy want to understand why some Nigerians/Africans and business people employ bullying as a method of negotiations? It would take quite sometime to explain but bad negotiations leads to bad deals. As soon as someone tries to take advantage of you by bullying you to accept what they offer reject it because they wouldn't stop at that. The world is full of nice people but very few are kind. How you speak to people is how they will take you. Disarm the beast that captures you and makes you feel like they own your destiny. Better to chop grass in a free field than be the golden bird in a cage. all that is meant for you will be yours.
There is a reason religions "philosophies of life" were recorded to teach people how to respond in different circumstances they find themselves. You do need to survive where the selfish and insecure man exists. You cant carpet the world but put on your slip-ons.
Bad talk is bad negotiations. Stop the attempt and you wouldn't feel abused. To hell with riches and you will find wealth. Those who know whats right will do the right thing - by their ways you shall know them.
Fear not the devil and he will flee! We will all know the truth sooner or later.
"'The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone; the Lord has done this, and it is marvelous in our eyes'?
This is where i employ what they call "curiosity kills the cat" i don't apologise to no one in what i believe or how i choose to worship. If children were given the free will to choose i doubt many will follow what their parents practice. We have christians who behave like muslims, we have muslims who behave like Buddhists and we have Buddhists who behave like rats :) Your personality dictates how your religion is being questioned. How you behave "react" shows what religious description you are like.
I was given the choice and for that i allow everyone to be who they want to be. If they are happy i am happy with them, if they are angry i am angry at them because they are making me unhappy. I treat people in the humanistic way and respond the Buddhist way. Should i see ignorance of me i become a Christian, should i be violated i try not to be a Muslim because some beg for it. :) Thats why i may come across as controversial. If i see an animal i either pipe down or become an even bigger beast, thats my prerogative. Everyone has boundaries and many should know when to stop in projecting their emotions. The one true faith for me is in my Creator who we all have defined in name and procedures "religeon". One thing i know for sure is "You can't talk about life or share your life with everyone, for some to comprehend what it took to be you is hard in an instant.
If asked i explain, if questioned i ignore, some are actually envious of your growth not happy in theirs, thats why you have the opportunity to win souls over to your side. There will never be one religion on this planet but we are all human and we have to treat each other as such first, that reflects your faith in life and honours our Creator.
Religion is the only way people are aware of their differences in mentality. Spiritual people see no difference, they realise all works for good who believe in him who created us; be it through science or any religious preference at start; this of course is the beginning of all disputes "did the chicken come before the egg?":). They have no one way to understanding the world and its dynamic. They are seldom spooked nor provoked., they are just in the spirit! I am still growing so i feel ok when i get out of line. It really doesn't matter what one worships, be it Satan or the Holy Mary, you have to love thy neighbour as thyself. You could actually be rich but miserable or poor but happy, football after all is now a religion :), what ever you idolise rules you but be mindful of how you take advantage of others. No one truly owns anyone anything even if man isnt an island. You have the right to ask for how you want to be treated and you can stop the beast with one word, thats the power you get when you understand insight "Spirituality" seek it for you to be free of anyones brainwashing.
There is more than one way to skin a cat - there is more than one way to approach life, my question is: What are you doing for yourself and others?
Patience they say is a virtue, the wise dog eats the flesh and patently smacks on the bone.
In order to bring knowledge to this question it is difficult to be concise! But I must never the less inform those who seek knowledge! I answered the question by saying "you can't fill an already full cup" and left it at that, I dont think i would give justice to the "WHY" if how, where, when, who, and what is not covered! and that is the very definition of ignorance in practice "limited knowledge" and attitude limits knowledge development. many ask me why am i not concise. for a simple reason that Life and the demand to survive requires that you be complex enough to protect yourself from those who pollute to loot. I dont compromise knowledge cos it leads to destruction. if you believe you know it all, then why bother even to communicate, and those who know seldom exhibit attitude, they are glad to share!
I don't post wiki or Webster for definitions to pose as facts cos I know that it is a limited treasure island with gold that needs to be discovered amidst layers of crap! Those who have practical experience at life always have an upper hand to booksmart, or youth cos they never give up, they may retreat but they come back with more force! Be wise not smart to have an edge!
Parents don't tell the truth to their kids cos they don't know how to tell them that the world out there is still based on competition "survival of the fittest" after they had made them belive that the world is kind, just not to kill their own faith in life, yet they are scared to admit to themselves and you that their knowledge is limited only to what they have been thought and experienced!
you must be fit to succeed!
Lack of self knowledge, lack of knowledge of the other and lack of knowledge of the grounds you are on! All these 3 areas produce information errors mistakes that often could be fatal, should someone take attitude as a sign of knowledge or confidence! The WHY forum will never achieve value if all answers are based on attitude alone! Be mindful of what you take to be facts!
If going by what is said in the art of war "that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you will not be imperiled in a hundred battles; if you do not know your enemies but do know yourself, you will win one and lose one; if you do not know your enemies nor yourself, you will be imperiled in every single battle.
To me I think the most important rule of wining is to want to, confidence attracts and if people want to belong, then isn't it better to belong to the best? A lot of people dont succeed becos of bad attitude!
A lot of people reveal their weaknesses and their vulnerabilities by having an attitude, there are some who use emotions to trigger emotions in others and you fall victim by following their trail. There is no amount of IQ that can save you if you are reactive!
When you speaking to someone in an abrasive manner you shut down the person from opening up and by that have left yourself out from experiences, If experiences is what allows us grow, why hinder your growth?
Everyone is looking for opportunities and there are those who are in your environment who are looking for those who are looking for opportunities! What I mean is if you don't put your best foot forward no matter where you are, you are limiting yourself to options!
Potential partners, Employers, clients, suitors are watching and people make choices first based on like. If someone provokes a negative tone, he or she receives a negative attraction! Why do that to one self? You may not need the world but why limit your choices?
Dont limit your choices isn't that what Capitalism 's is all about? The only time you feel taken advantage of is when someone has capitalised on your ignorance of self and them. Why not ask why someone asked or did first before you make a judgement? Do we think that those who ask questions dont have some sort of reason or answer of their own? Why do we think people who ask dont know anything?
People ruin their own opportunities by having the wrong set of attitudes about others and an over inflated self impression. Arrogance, can be misconstrued for confidence and vice versa. Arrogance rubs you off your own luck. A lot of employers make the mistake to employ arrogant people assuming thats a sign of confidence and knowledge. Colleagues vilify and then setup traps to rid themselves of competition by triggering anger and we all know that the mass minded always point finger on what they see rather than what they know and what they know is often what has been presented. Confident but angry don't produce anything cos anger is an unproductive emotion and you the only one feeling it but the other still has a chance and choice not to receive it!
10 x 0 = 0 it dont matter what you know, it is how you present your knowledge if you care enough for yourself. Grammar? well thats to give your English teacher a smile but he still judges you by your content.
